Blurb Verse

"And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us."
Romans 5:3-5
Follow Me on Pinterest

Saturday, February 25, 2012

Jesus is no stranger to our sorrow & trials

"Then Jesus went with his disciples to a place called Gethsemane, and he said to them, “Sit here while I go over there and pray.” He took Peter and the two sons of Zebedee along with him, and he began to be sorrowful and troubled. Then he said to them, “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.” Going a little farther, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.”
Then he returned to his disciples and found them sleeping. “Couldn’t you men keep watch with me for one hour?” he asked Peter. “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” He went away a second time and prayed, “My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done.”
When he came back, he again found them sleeping, because their eyes were heavy. So he left them and went away once more and prayed the third time, saying the same thing. Then he returned to the disciples and said to them, “Are you still sleeping and resting? Look, the hour has come, and the Son of Man is delivered into the hands of sinners.Rise! Let us go! Here comes my betrayer!”
Matthew 26:36-46

Friends, do you ever feel like you are being swallowed whole by the day to day struggles of living with a chronic illness? Do you feel like nobody really understands you or gets what you go through each day? Do you feel alone?



If you're anything like me, you probably feel these feelings often. It's hard dealing with long-term illness & the truth is many of our friends, family & peers, who've never experienced it for themselves or had a close encounter through a friend, actually don't know what it's like to struggle with this.
For years, I have had feelings and thoughts that quite frankly, I used to think were somehow "un-Christian" or ungodly. I thought, "The world holds absolutely no joy for me", "There's nothing but heaven for me to look forward to in my future" and I've even thought, "My soul is overwhelmed to the point of death".

Jesus knows what it is like to feel like this. In the passage above, we see Jesus' last actions and thoughts before his arrest and subsequent cruxification. Jesus knew that His death was imminent. He knew the struggles that He'd face and He knew He'd face them alone. I want to point out five things about this passage:

1. Even though Jesus knew it was God's will for Him to suffer this way, He felt sorrow, even to the point of death (verse 38). 
It is not wrong for us to feel upset and feel saddened by the state we are in. This is hard. It is most definitely NOT wrong for us to grieve, even when we know and believe that God has and is using our circumstances for His glory. Struggling with depression is therefore NOT wrong.

2. Jesus brought the full weight of His sorrow to God in prayer (verse 39,42). 
When life is hard, we can bring this sorrow and pain to God. God's big enough to handle the absolute worst and scariest, deepest, darkest feelings we've ever had. He's big enough to deal with it all. In verse 38, Jesus basically tells God that he is so full of sorrow, that He might drop dead. I don't know if you've ever felt this way; I have. It is the point where everything is falling apart, and where, in the limitations of my human mind, I just cannot imagine how life could go on from here. It is safe, right and good for us, as children of God, to share these feelings with Him. Sometimes, just the mere act of taking those feelings out of our thoughts and speaking to God about them (ie. making them a reality) makes us feel better because it reminds us that we are not alone & gives us the opportunity to replace those feelings with words of hope, God's very own words from His Word.

3. Even though Jesus knew it was God's will for Him to suffer this way, He asked for the possibility of God freeing him from sorrow and death (verse 39).
It is not wrong for us to want to be healthy, to be well. This is a basic human desire; When this world was made, when we were made, sickness did not belong in this world. It is not wrong for us to desire to be well, to desire for the world to be put back to its original state where death, sin, sickness and suffering are not present.

4. Despite all that He felt, Jesus asked God to do His will (verse 39, 42)
This is important. As followers of Jesus, we know that this life is not merely about us. It is not about our happiness or accumulating large volumes of possessions or even feeling wanted and loved. This life is about bringing glory to God and sharing God's love with the world. And believe it or not, God can use your life altering, crippling chronic illness to do exactly this! In 2 Corinthians 12, Paul tells us that he too had a thorn in His flesh. And though He asked God thrice to take it away, God responds differently. He says, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." At first glance, you might say, 'well, that's great, but it doesn't exactly help me work out how to live with this', but bear with me on this. For whatever reason, human beings tend to grow closer to God during difficult times, not good ones. Struggles remind us of the fact that we are only human. That we are only the created, not the Creator. Over the past seven years, as I reflect over life and all that God has accomplished through me, I am amazed. God has done a great work in me! Despite agonizing pain, He has given me opportunities to serve, provided for my day to day life & still managed to help me be a witness and light to others!

A couple of years ago, I remember reflecting on Philippians 3:8 and  4:13, asking God to help me 'consider all things a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord' and 'learn the secret of being content in all situations and know that I can do everything through Christ'. Now, as I reflect on the year gone by (yes, because all things are clearer in hindsight), I see that God has and is answering that prayer. The things of this earth, with each day, hold less and less joy & power over me, as I see the futility of pursuing them. Furthermore, God has taught me so much about how to live in complete reliance & dependence on Him, as I grow weaker. I now see why Paul says in the passage in 2 Corinthians 12, "For when I am weak, then I am strong."

I am grateful to God for all that he has taught me and is continuing to teach me through my weakness & chronic illness, probably lessons I would not have learnt otherwise. Praise God that He doesn't just give us what we ask for blindly, but gives us what we need.

5. Though Jesus took His closest friends with Him (Peter, James and John - verse 37), they did not understand what He was going through. They fell asleep. They did not and could not comfort Him (verse 40,43).
If you're anything like me, you've probably experienced an array of frustration at the lack of understanding you've received from people. I know how you feel. Over the course of my illness, I've lost more friends than I can bear to remember, people who thought I was exaggerating things, people who got mad at me for not being able to attend parties or come to events, people who just got tired of the burden of bearing with a person who has so much need, and people who themselves are struggling with so much that they do not have time or energy to deal with anyone else's lives & problems. It's hard; chronic illness sometimes walks hand in hand with chronic isolation and friend-less-ness.

Jesus experienced this. See Peter, James and John did not know what Jesus knew. They could not imagine or conceive that the Son of God had such a future to come, even though Jesus did tell them it was coming (eg. Matthew 20:17-19; 16:21-28). When it came to the depths of His sorrow, God remained his only comfort. And yet, Jesus knew that this did not mean He was not loved. They loved Him; they just did not know how to deal with this - "The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak".

Friends, forgive your friends for their lack of understanding. Forgive them because chronic illness is not anything they have ever dealt with themselves. Forgive them because God has forgiven you.
But that's not all. Forgive yourself. It is so easy to feel burdened & at blame for not exerting beyond your strength to 'save' those friendships. If they don't work out, you need to forgive yourself because you are not in control of it all. Finally, treasure those friendships that do last. Everytime I plunge into misery and feel all alone, I reach into my special boxes, where I store cards, notes and letters people have sent to me over the years. I read them all to encourage myself, to remind myself that others are praying for me & also, to remind myself that even if I feel alone, I am NOT alone. And neither are you.

Friday, February 24, 2012

Why bother with a blog?

Life is busy... there's work & study, TV & hobbies, God & church, add in family & friends and before you know it, life starts becoming crazy. It seems like everyone is running a race, desperate for an extra moment, an extra hand or leg to complete our never ending lists of things to do. And that's for a perfectly healthy person.



Those of us with a chronic illness know only too well, that illness only makes life busier, adding to that list of things that never seems to get done. 

So why bother blogging? Surely, I could spend my limited energy doing other things.

Three reasons:
1. Life is hard. Life with fibromyalgia (or any chronic illness, for that matter) is hard.
2. God comforts us during our times of struggle, not just for our benefit, but so that others may be comforted through us as well.
3. Since I was diagnosed last year, I have been searching, through Google, Amazon, Ebay, Support Forums and pretty much any other source I could get some hands on, for advice on what day-to-day living with God looks like for those of us who are chronically ill. How can we pray while in pain? How can we serve? etc. What I found was plenty of calls to have more faith to be healed, to persevere by acting as though we are not chronically ill & plenty of "I don't know. I've never thought about it." God has been very faithful to me through these years. He has helped me with some of these questions. I would like to share some of these answers as well as other questions I struggle with in hopes that some one out there might find them helpful.

I'm no expert on faith or fibromyalgia and I don't pretend to be. But it is my prayer and hope that God would use these reflections and thoughts to encourage you in your struggles & help you remember that you are not alone. Definitely not alone.

Love always. :)